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Way #9 – The Idea of doing nothing together sounds terrific

In the early stages of dating, there is a hunger to discover who the other person is, but this time also feels scary because they may not be what you thought or – even worse – you may not be what they’re looking for. Even though the stakes aren’t very high at the beginning, we feel that they are, so we play at dating, and one of the easiest ways to play is to do something at all times – either publicly or privately. The dating ritual is about finding places to go and things to do. Once a couple is sexual, the think to do is sexual, and everything else seems just a holding action until the couple can hit the streets. Then when the initial flurry of sexual activity is over, there is a tendency to want to show each other off because you’re feeling connected and proud and flushed (this can occur before sex and even when a couple is sexual….although hopefully not at exactly that moment) which means a lot of time spent around other people.

When the idea of doing nothing together is the coolest thing either of you can come up with, you’re very likely in love, because you’ve gone through the other stages of terror, sex, and showing off. Now, the relationship is just about the two of you, not to the exclusion of everyone or anything else. In fact, your “normal” life has expanded to include each other, but the idea of simply being together is the most wonderful thing either of you can figure out to do – even out of bed.


June 23, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , | Leave a comment