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Take a walk to a new place

Yeah, I know this sounds like a metaphor, and it probably is, but we are influenced by our own behavior. A walk makes a slower pace, together in a larger world, exploring a place neither of you have ever been before. Look, don’t be sillly. I’m not talking about walking through a dark park at midnight and worrying about whether or not you’re going to get mugged, and getting lost isn’t necessarily romantic. Use caution and sense and your head. Go for a walk on a new beach or a national park in daylight, a hike through a woods, or even a stroll around the block. The idea is experiencing both something new and part of the greater world together. A picnic lunch is optional.

Other cool places to experience together:

Aquariums: Water is always romantic, just don’t go out for seafood afterwards
Zoos: Don’t go on a Sunday unless absolutely necessary or you’re very found of small kids.
Amusement Parks: Beware of rides that make you nauseous.
Water parks: Fun and water is seductive.
Beaches: I love the water; I’m prejudiced
Museums and sculpture gardens: You can walk, hold hands, and talk.
Botanical gardens: Make sure it’s not hay fever season.
Churches: The air is special and candlelight is always flattering.
Row boats: Being on the water is lovely if you can row.
Mountains: Don’t get caught unprepared.
The desert: Being outside is almost always lovely, and a desert is austere and basic. Bring water.
Paris: Okey, so I love spitting cherry pits and walking on the Champs Elysee.
Redwood forest: Being around something that’s been around that long puts things is perspective.
New York at Christmas: What can I say?
Carriage rides: Lots of cities have them.
Fireplaces: Gets us right back to the caves and our ancestors.
Country lanes: Beware of traffic.

The point of St. Valentine’s messages was thinking about the concerns of his friend even through he was imprisoned. You’re not imprisoned or a martyr, and we’re talking more than friendship here, but you get the point.

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August 4, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Give a “Generous Soul” Gift Certificate

Even through the best relationships are based on communality of interest, into every relationship a certain amount of difference falls. She loves professional wrestling, he loves ballet; he loves horses, she gets starry-eyed over drug racing. But going someplace you loathe because you love some-one who wants to be there is a sign of not only being in love, but also of being a generous, considerate, empathetic, and sensitive adult as well. So no whining! Being a good sport is way cool – especially if you keep reminding yourself that karma is a boomerang.

Rather then being dragged kicking and screaming, offer an ollie, ollie home free good for one date, to any event you usually loathe, without complaint, and with no strings attached. Not only is it good karma, but it’s also an opportunity to stop being a pain on the neck and experience something voluntarily that you may actually learn to like or at least tolerate because it was your idea in the first place.

The willingness to do something you hate because someone you love loves it is one of the true signs of love.

July 28, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Shampo and bathe your love

From earliest times, from the Romans to the Japanese, baths have had ritual status as a way of not only purifying, but also of preparing and relaxing and celebrating.

Geishas have it right. There is something very loving about washing someone: warm water, soap, bubbles. The sensations fake us back to being cared for and pampered and loved. A long, careful, gentle shampoo is lovely enough to have a very movie named after it, starring Warren Beatty, Goldle Hawn, and Lauren Becall. If you can find some scented candles and soft music, so much the better, but resist the notion of a quickly shower; vertical just doesn’t quite do it.

Again, if your relationship hasn’t moved to a sexual level, it’s okey to wear bathing suits. the idea is fun and pampering and sensuality, not seduction.

July 23, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Write A Love Note

Just as flowers speak volumes, putting pen to paper bespeaks extra effort, something from the heart.

You don’t have to rhyme, be bill Shakespeare, or be flowery. Cards are fine, but struggling through on your own is even better. Don’t try to be cute or funny. Your words don’t have to be poetry (although poetry’s cool), and if you’re really talented at drawing, terrific, add a sketch or two. But the point the point here isn’t so much about artistry as sincerity. Just write a sweet sentiment from your heart. Something gentle and touching – and try not to make it a mash note (body parts shouldn’t be too graphically mentioned).

Buying a nice sheet of paper is much better than ripping something out of your notebook, and post ’ems are to be avoided just this once. Don’t even think about typing the note. If your handwriting is lousy, print – and no pencil, please. Also, try not to misspell a whole lot. Just make sure your note’s legible, and don’t worry about points off for punctuation (after all, your love isn’t your English teacher – I hope). Understand that the real value in writing a love note is that it’s hard to do. We’ve all been talking a lot longer than we’ve been writing, so sometimes you can really get to the heart of the matter (get it??) a bit more quickly by putting pen to paper rather than word of mouth.

One last word about love notes: Make sure it doesn’t fall into the wrong hands. No passing it out in class.

July 16, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Send Flowers for No Reason

It’s not coincidental that the biggest flower day of the year is Valentine’s Day, the day originally set aside to remember friends that has evolved into a lover’s holiday. Flowers remind us of Mother Nature at her most lovely, which is always helpful when dealing with romance. Plants are lovely, but not nearly as romantic.

Even though we all know that flowers come from seeds and take work and care – They need to be watered, weeded, fertilized with just the right amount of manure, dead-headed, and so on – a beautiful flower reminds us of the bounty of life and the possibility of artistry. What better symbol than a flower to represent the birds and bees (even Belle in Disney’s Beauty and the beast is transfixed by the glow of a frozen flower that can be melted and brought back to life by love).

Trust me, anything that works on the designated holiday works even better on a random day and is scads cheaper. The bouquet can be hand delivered by you or sent if you’re feeling flush or shy; you can send a dozen roses or a single stem, orchids or violates, seasonal or hothouse. The point isn’t the lavishness, but the thoughtfulness.

Guys like getting flowers too, just ease off the roses. Think about an amaryllis (Called boy flowers by some for obvious reasons) or chrysanthemums or Indian paint brushes or something a bit exotic. The Messages is still romantic and thoughtful and sexy.

Make sure you don’t send the same flowers for birthday, fights, or special events. Roses are romantic, but don’t get in a rut.

July 15, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Ten Ways to Make Every Day Like Valentine’s Day

St. Valentine’s Day conjured images of candies in foil hearts, boxed roses, and a romantic dinner. But the real romance of Valentine’s Day isn’t the food or the flowers: It’s the feeling of being important enough to someone else to be remembered and fussed over and loved and cherished. It’s sharing a loving (not necessarily sexual) experience; picking out a scent together or choosing warm, woolen mittens or a perfect scented candle or a fuzzy warm blanket or a CD you both like. It’s a shared ice cream Cone.

Well, I’ve got news for you: You don’t have to wait for February 14th to get or give that feeling. Just as you can have Christmas in July, you can make any day Valentine’s Day. Just try a few of the ideas in this chapter – any day of the year – and I’ll bet you can melt your date’s heart fasterĀ  than chocolate in August, with a lot less mess.

July 13, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Analyze Fear

Fear. It’s buried and it’s old and it’s kinda nasty and it’s pretty familier. If you’ve followed the advice in each of the preceding sections, you may have bumped up against a really uncomfortable feeling. Its names range from the blue meanies, to the bogey man, our demons, our baggage. It’s that part of ourselves that we shield like crazy because we hate it about ourselves, and it makes us really, really unhappy and scared. It may be that we fear we’ll be abandoned or that we’re too fat or too stupid or too smart or too tall or too short or too thin. Whatever our fear, it’s likely gotten moldy because it’s been around for so long. It’s often leftover from childhood or adolescence and pops up at the most inconvenient times – like when we are trying to let down our guard and feel close to someone and let them know the true us so we can feel loved.

It is impossible to be completely without fear, and that’s okey: Fear warns us. After all, it would be stupid to cross the street without looking, or do a header off the Empire State Building. But we can look at our fear, our assumptions, our anger, our patterns and decide to try and do something different. The moment we do that, our fear no longer controls us. We’re in charge of our own life, and paradoxically, these moments are most likely to happen when we let another person into our intimate life.

There’s a great scene in the movie The Mission, with Jeremy Irons and Robert De Niro, who play Spanish missionaries who have come to South America to convert the Indians. De Niro has brought elaborate carved chairs and tables and silver chalices and armor and all the things that he felt were necessary, but in the new world, even though he’d tied this stuff up so that he could carry it easily, the slope is too slippery, and it’s raining, and he has to make a decision. Are these things from another life important enough to him to hold on to, even though he won’t be able to keep going and may even have to go back to where he has, or can he cut them loose and reach his goal. Often in a relationship, we are given that opportunity to see our fear, see the things we feel we need to makeĀ  us safe and comfortable, and realize that they’re just not working. At that point, we can decide to let them go or to park them for awhile, to see whether things work better without them.

July 10, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Write Stuff Down

All of us have been talking for a lot longer than we’ve been writing, which is why a blank page seems so intimidating, but when it comes to being honest and keeping track, writing stuff down is an instant combination shortcut and mirror. You don’t have to write an essay or poetry, and no one’s going to be grading for spelling or punctuation. This is simply your way of keeping track. (Little girls often begin the habit to a diary around seven or eight when an auntie gives them a diary.)

A log (not a Captain James T. Kirk kind of log, but a feelings log) can be really useful and helpful and helpful to pinpoint important times, beginning of issues and changes in the relationships. It’s a great way to keep us honest and focused, and as long as it isn’t left around for someone to find and read there is no downside here. A log also is a way of taking responsibility privately so we can practice before we take it publicly.

July 6, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Re-Evaluate Often

Something that made you happy or behavior that pleased you or someone who rang your chimes once may or may not be in for the long haul. The only way of knowing the short-term from the long-term is to be willing to take your own emotional pulse from time to time.

If you’re happy and you know it, not only clap your hands, but enjoy, and if you have a few extra moments, try to figure out why you’re happy (although, to b quite honest, most of us don’t; we just let the good times roll and rule). But if you’re miserable (or even if there seems to be just a tiny pinch), for heaven’s sake, take a moment and see whether you can figure out alternatives and understand cause and effect (what makes you feel the way you do). Don’t waste time blaming; just try to be specific and active and responsible and problem-solve.

July 3, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Don’t settle

A life is a series of compromises – going left when you wanted to go right because the taxi cut you off, taking the chicken on the buffet table because the prime rib was all gone, going to the prom with your best friend because you thought your dream date would turn you down. There’s nothing bad or wrong about being flexible. The trick is knowing when to compromise and when to go for it.

To do that, you have to know what’s really important to you, and once you know that, don’t settle. If you don’t have what you want, make sure you do know what you want – being both realistic and specific – and then go for it. You can always re-evaluate. What most people regret is not the mistakes they made, but the chanves they didn’t take.

July 2, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment