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Plan A Mystery Date

Instead of falling back on the old stand-by or the “So what do you want to do?” Ploy, take the time and prepare a special date. Don’t make your date responsible for anything other than showing up. You pick the place, choose the activity, buy the tickets, arrange for the dinner – you get the picture.

It’s important to settle on the time ahead of time so that you’re not trying to whisk your love off to paris for the weekend just before a major presentation is due on monday or to a romantic picnic on the day the corporate boss is scheduled to come in for a review. Your feelings will be hurt at their likely response, and this is romance 101, not Guilt for Fun and Profit. But once you have agreed on the day or the hour or the weekend or the month, let yourself get really creative. Pretend your are planning the world’s most spectacular experience to delight the head and heart of the one you love.

You can pick something lavish or low-key, romantic or rustic, close or far away (another advantage of off-season Vslentine’s celebrations). Just make sure that you are planning something your love will enjoy, not your fantasy date and place. Focus on making a date, with all the trimmings, to delight your love. The date doesn’t need to be expensive, just imaginative: A picnic can work as well as a cruise, a home-cooked meal as well as a catered affair. We’re talking heart, not wallet, here.


July 29, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Give a “Generous Soul” Gift Certificate

Even through the best relationships are based on communality of interest, into every relationship a certain amount of difference falls. She loves professional wrestling, he loves ballet; he loves horses, she gets starry-eyed over drug racing. But going someplace you loathe because you love some-one who wants to be there is a sign of not only being in love, but also of being a generous, considerate, empathetic, and sensitive adult as well. So no whining! Being a good sport is way cool – especially if you keep reminding yourself that karma is a boomerang.

Rather then being dragged kicking and screaming, offer an ollie, ollie home free good for one date, to any event you usually loathe, without complaint, and with no strings attached. Not only is it good karma, but it’s also an opportunity to stop being a pain on the neck and experience something voluntarily that you may actually learn to like or at least tolerate because it was your idea in the first place.

The willingness to do something you hate because someone you love loves it is one of the true signs of love.

July 28, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Clean Your Love’s Place

If baths are sexy and sensual, shampooing a rug (no, not his toupee, silly) and cleaning her sink (don’t even think about it) can certainly drive some of us into a frenzy of appreciation and love. The idea of someone we love doing something we loathe just for us is really cool. Besides, cleaning someone else’s place ism’t nearly as icky as digging out your own.

Remember, no fair peeking into drawers, and giving a gift certificate is probably better than risking being arrested for breaking and entering by trying to do it as a surprise.

July 24, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Shampo and bathe your love

From earliest times, from the Romans to the Japanese, baths have had ritual status as a way of not only purifying, but also of preparing and relaxing and celebrating.

Geishas have it right. There is something very loving about washing someone: warm water, soap, bubbles. The sensations fake us back to being cared for and pampered and loved. A long, careful, gentle shampoo is lovely enough to have a very movie named after it, starring Warren Beatty, Goldle Hawn, and Lauren Becall. If you can find some scented candles and soft music, so much the better, but resist the notion of a quickly shower; vertical just doesn’t quite do it.

Again, if your relationship hasn’t moved to a sexual level, it’s okey to wear bathing suits. the idea is fun and pampering and sensuality, not seduction.

July 23, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Give a Massage

What you’re going for here is a way to celebrate sensual intimacy independent of sexuality. A massage isn’t seduction, but pleasure; it’s sensual good feelings that aren’t genitally centred, feeling warm, happy, contented – not sexual. Also the idea isn’t you do me and I’ll do you. Treat the massage like a gift; you can get your own massage at a later time.

For a massage, you can either splurge on some good massage oil, use baby oil, or put a drop of almond extract in mineral oil for a lovely scent. Find a flat surface in a comfortably warm room (okey, yeah, a bed will work, but we’re going for sensuous, not sexual here – just keep telling yourself that), and make sure that you’re not messing up your best sheets or towels. Find some soothing music and soft lighting. Too bright isn’t relaxing, and too dark makes it hard to find each other.

If you are giving a full-body massage, remember to include the hands and feet. Because you’re going for intimacy and closeness, not sex here, it’s good idea to exclude genitalia, and always offer the option of underwear kept on. (If the two of you aren’t at that stage of your relationship, offer a hand and foot massage as an alternative to a full body massage or scout up a professional masseuse or masseur. The gift of massage is always lovely but even more special if it’s you personally laying on hands.)

Take your time – at least an hour – and warm up the oil in your hands first.

July 22, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Reminisce about your first date together

Even if it was a disaster, thinking back to how you two got started out is fun. Sharing your history with each other can give you both a perspective that allows you to weather temporary glitches on the radar better, because of the sense of shared past. Nothing is more romantic than the sense that we’ve come through troubled times together. It’s metaphorical equivalent of being cozied up in front of a roaring fire together with a cold wind blowing outside.

July 17, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Write A Love Note

Just as flowers speak volumes, putting pen to paper bespeaks extra effort, something from the heart.

You don’t have to rhyme, be bill Shakespeare, or be flowery. Cards are fine, but struggling through on your own is even better. Don’t try to be cute or funny. Your words don’t have to be poetry (although poetry’s cool), and if you’re really talented at drawing, terrific, add a sketch or two. But the point the point here isn’t so much about artistry as sincerity. Just write a sweet sentiment from your heart. Something gentle and touching – and try not to make it a mash note (body parts shouldn’t be too graphically mentioned).

Buying a nice sheet of paper is much better than ripping something out of your notebook, and post ’ems are to be avoided just this once. Don’t even think about typing the note. If your handwriting is lousy, print – and no pencil, please. Also, try not to misspell a whole lot. Just make sure your note’s legible, and don’t worry about points off for punctuation (after all, your love isn’t your English teacher – I hope). Understand that the real value in writing a love note is that it’s hard to do. We’ve all been talking a lot longer than we’ve been writing, so sometimes you can really get to the heart of the matter (get it??) a bit more quickly by putting pen to paper rather than word of mouth.

One last word about love notes: Make sure it doesn’t fall into the wrong hands. No passing it out in class.

July 16, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Send Flowers for No Reason

It’s not coincidental that the biggest flower day of the year is Valentine’s Day, the day originally set aside to remember friends that has evolved into a lover’s holiday. Flowers remind us of Mother Nature at her most lovely, which is always helpful when dealing with romance. Plants are lovely, but not nearly as romantic.

Even though we all know that flowers come from seeds and take work and care – They need to be watered, weeded, fertilized with just the right amount of manure, dead-headed, and so on – a beautiful flower reminds us of the bounty of life and the possibility of artistry. What better symbol than a flower to represent the birds and bees (even Belle in Disney’s Beauty and the beast is transfixed by the glow of a frozen flower that can be melted and brought back to life by love).

Trust me, anything that works on the designated holiday works even better on a random day and is scads cheaper. The bouquet can be hand delivered by you or sent if you’re feeling flush or shy; you can send a dozen roses or a single stem, orchids or violates, seasonal or hothouse. The point isn’t the lavishness, but the thoughtfulness.

Guys like getting flowers too, just ease off the roses. Think about an amaryllis (Called boy flowers by some for obvious reasons) or chrysanthemums or Indian paint brushes or something a bit exotic. The Messages is still romantic and thoughtful and sexy.

Make sure you don’t send the same flowers for birthday, fights, or special events. Roses are romantic, but don’t get in a rut.

July 15, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Ten Ways to Make Every Day Like Valentine’s Day

St. Valentine’s Day conjured images of candies in foil hearts, boxed roses, and a romantic dinner. But the real romance of Valentine’s Day isn’t the food or the flowers: It’s the feeling of being important enough to someone else to be remembered and fussed over and loved and cherished. It’s sharing a loving (not necessarily sexual) experience; picking out a scent together or choosing warm, woolen mittens or a perfect scented candle or a fuzzy warm blanket or a CD you both like. It’s a shared ice cream Cone.

Well, I’ve got news for you: You don’t have to wait for February 14th to get or give that feeling. Just as you can have Christmas in July, you can make any day Valentine’s Day. Just try a few of the ideas in this chapter – any day of the year – and I’ll bet you can melt your date’s heart fasterĀ  than chocolate in August, with a lot less mess.

July 13, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Analyze Fear

Fear. It’s buried and it’s old and it’s kinda nasty and it’s pretty familier. If you’ve followed the advice in each of the preceding sections, you may have bumped up against a really uncomfortable feeling. Its names range from the blue meanies, to the bogey man, our demons, our baggage. It’s that part of ourselves that we shield like crazy because we hate it about ourselves, and it makes us really, really unhappy and scared. It may be that we fear we’ll be abandoned or that we’re too fat or too stupid or too smart or too tall or too short or too thin. Whatever our fear, it’s likely gotten moldy because it’s been around for so long. It’s often leftover from childhood or adolescence and pops up at the most inconvenient times – like when we are trying to let down our guard and feel close to someone and let them know the true us so we can feel loved.

It is impossible to be completely without fear, and that’s okey: Fear warns us. After all, it would be stupid to cross the street without looking, or do a header off the Empire State Building. But we can look at our fear, our assumptions, our anger, our patterns and decide to try and do something different. The moment we do that, our fear no longer controls us. We’re in charge of our own life, and paradoxically, these moments are most likely to happen when we let another person into our intimate life.

There’s a great scene in the movie The Mission, with Jeremy Irons and Robert De Niro, who play Spanish missionaries who have come to South America to convert the Indians. De Niro has brought elaborate carved chairs and tables and silver chalices and armor and all the things that he felt were necessary, but in the new world, even though he’d tied this stuff up so that he could carry it easily, the slope is too slippery, and it’s raining, and he has to make a decision. Are these things from another life important enough to him to hold on to, even though he won’t be able to keep going and may even have to go back to where he has, or can he cut them loose and reach his goal. Often in a relationship, we are given that opportunity to see our fear, see the things we feel we need to makeĀ  us safe and comfortable, and realize that they’re just not working. At that point, we can decide to let them go or to park them for awhile, to see whether things work better without them.

July 10, 2009 Posted by | Dating, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment